[0866] Dating Tips For Girls, Part 1 Of 4
└ posted on Monday, 6 March 2017, by Novil
- Cardboard heart: Dating tips for girls by Larisa
- Sticker: Part 1 of 4
- Larisa: You can tell that they’re great based on the fact that they’re from me.
- Larisa: Contrary to popular belief, boys aren’t able to read your mind.
- Laverne: My favorite color is blue.
- Laverne: P-l-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-a-s-e ask me out!!
- Henrik: O–kay…
- Larisa: Even less subtle hints fly over the head of many boys.
- Laverne: There’s this concert on Saturday, but I don’t want to go alone.
- Henrik: Oh, I hope you find somebody.
- Larisa: Therefore, drastic measures must be taken at times.
- Laverne: I’d like to go to the concert with you on Saturday because I think you’re really cute and would like to get to know you better.
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Totally true,
why talking in riddles or something? Just say I want to go to the concert with you or how about a date and every boy knows what to do.
And the same thing is true for boys: don’t expect a girl to know you’re interested if you never say anything! Gotta summon the ol’ courage and open your mouth, people.
And who will be responsible for the Dating Tips for Boys?
@ Cervisia:
Dating tips for boys: show genuine interest and be kind
Most people do one or the other. Showing interest gets you into a relationship, being kind keeps it running smoothly.
By only being kind, you stay friends and never go further, by only being interested in her and not being a decent human being, well… there are many great stories on that matter.
“Would like to get to know you better”? Gosh, if only we could grasp the meaning behind such cryptic feminine cues.
Just to be fair, a lot of people (male and female) get the hints and just ignore them as they don’t know how they want to react.
I’d resent this if it weren’t so true. We are clueless.
@ Xezlec:
Yes! So much this. The comic makes a great point about communication, but is a bit sexist, because anyone can be clueless, so clear communication is good for everyone.
@ Mystik:
In my case, I was never quite sure if the person was just being really friendly, or genuinely interested in me. I’ve had both sides happen, where I didn’t get the hint, and they were interested in me, and when I thought they were interested in me, they were just being friendly… So it’s still pretty difficult regardless…
Panel one (not able to read minds) in particular applies to Programmers and Administrators too. And generally other people.
Despite all attempts to add Selection pressure towards Telepathy, my family has not developed the ability.
I don’t recommend using a megaphone, though.
Actually according to communication theory there is no receiver problem. The sender has to send a clear message for the receiver to undrstand the message…
But at the same time the receiver has to ask if the message was unclear.
“My favourite color is blue” – which may be out of context
“Why are you telling me that” – typical response when there is no context
“Because I like you and want you to know” – self explaining
“There’s this concert on Saturday, but I don’t want to go alone.” Has some hints in it but unless the receiver is interested he would not offer himself. If asked directly the story is different.
So i would not think larisas dating tips are good. There is no rule that the boy has to get all hints to make the first step
Outside of the megaphone and that I would phrase that as a question I agree.
@ Alex C:
I’m not sure … it may be too subtle, but it’s true that using megaphone wouldn’t help.
This kind of stuff really would help.
“I don’t always notice when girls flirt with me, but when I do…..it’s two years later.”
I think a woman MIGHT have flirted with me, but by the time I even considered the flirting to be a real possibility, she had already moved on and married someone else.
Humans are seriously disadvantaged when it comes to this sort of thing. You don’t have tails to semaphore with, the pinnae of your ears are immobile, and while you do produce scent cues, your olfactory sense isn’t sufficient to pick them up. Perhaps Seeoahtlahmakaskay could start assigning relationship raccoons to all of you, to facilitate human relations along these lines…
For me even a megaphone can bee subtle sometimes… doctor, is it curable?
Can confirm this is true. We boys are denser than uranium.
Martin wrote:
It ain’t talking in riddles, it’s being shy and a tradition of being stigmatized for being assertive.
You wouldn’t know it, unless you were raised in a household that broke with tradition and had a parent get on your case for “having no backbone” (and “no sense of what’s good for you”), but that last part’s more likely than you think.
For all you youngsters, may I relate the following? My late wife (we had 46 years together) decided one day while we were in the dormitory lounge on opposites sides that I was what she wanted. God alone knows why! But I was so glad to find someone who liked me that I ‘pursued’ her until she caught me. BTW, this is normal, guys. Get over it.
Ladies, I totally get that every lady would love for a guy to be able to figure this out by themselves, but if it makes you feel any better, the guy will still think it was his idea to ask you out.
@ The J.A.M.:
I can definitely relate to this one…sadly.
kazunori wrote:
A tip straight from the horses mouth (horse meaning girl, not in an insulting way): carrying their books to school is not in fact a cliche movie thing, but can actually work
I got snagged by this trap.
My line of thinking: “Well, if she’s lamenting that she doesn’t have anybody to go with, but isn’t asking me, it’s because she must have already ruled me out as a possible date. I’d better express sympathy instead of making things awkward by offering to go with her.”
When people of the female variety tell me they like me, or another girl likes me, I assume they’re joking. I assume do because I go out of my way to be a jerk and openly admit I would probably be just as fine if they were deceased. I also attempt to be as disturbing as possible, and… well, I’m not going to finish that thought because it would probably violate comment rules. Makes me stop and think if or how anybody could like me. I must be doing the “disturbing ass who would gladly kill you to avoid talking to you” thing wrong. Also, if this comment isn’t violating enough rules to be taken down, I would like to note that I only discuss how much I hate people to kill my public image, and am not a bad person outside of the public eye, but make DAMN sure if you met me in person you’d never find out and please tell me you’ve stopped reading this 😐
myth buster wrote:
I do.
@ Novil:
Yey, but turn it on low maybe.
@ Commentary Ver.2.72:
Go on. Wanna hear more.
Boy: She thinks I’m cute? Cool.
myth buster wrote:
Eh, it’s Larisa. Once you’ve spammed an entire continent with underage nudity, even a bullhorn counts as subtle.
Brennan wrote:
*This*. For someone paranoid like myself, it’s not worth the risk of completely incorrectly assuming they want me to go with them, leading to either an awkward situation or, worse, them inviting me when they actually would rather not, and me going along because I now feel obligated.
Wasn’t it establish that guys like us are dense?
WHERE IS THE THUMBS-UP BUTTON
The less than subtle hints is probably all that’s needed to gauge interest, lol. If he’s not interested, he probably wouldn’t have picked up on it, lol.
Martin wrote:
I *think* that is the point. Less hints, more straight up. Also, let’s be ok with anybody making an ass of themselves from time to time. Rather clear and to the point but with no stigmatising when it’s not reciprocated.
Also, mindreading failures occur in relationships as well. Just sayin’
Haha, to a certain extend this is true. The point is that you often think about other things, have stuff to do or do not expect being hit on etc. I had such situations repeatedly:
(1) In the physics library. I’m reading a book. Some girls nearby talk *loudly* about “how cute” that boy over there is. I look up. They look at me. Huh? Do they mean *me*?
(2) Years later, the same situation in a mall shortly before christmas. I’m walking through there and one girl says to the other: “That one over there is cute”. I’m the only one that is around. This seems to be a kind of ‘flirt strategy’ among girls. Or maybe I just have better ears than others.
(3) I’m standing at a traffic light. On the other side is a girl that is quite cute. The light goes to green, I’m crossing and she *rams* full throttle into me. At that time I really could have turned around and talked to her, but I was just with my thoughts somewhere else.
(4) I’m walking to the park. A girl stops me and asks me “where the city center is”. I tell her and are on my way. Only later on I noticed that she was heading in the completely opposite direction, was just running around in rather thin clothes & looked like a normal girl from the neighborhood.
-> I’m just too slow
YES!!! ALWAYS TRUE, ALL THROUGHOUT LIFE!!!
Ahah.
There was this girl who once told me she wanted to go swimming but she had nobody to go with. She was a friend who I had become much closer to recently, for some reason we were always seated next to each other on breaks and we had talked a lot.
So I was thinking “ahah, girls and their needs to always be accompanied, I go swimming alone all the time.” But no need to be a jerk, if that’s how she likes to have fun it must be frustrating to not find anyone to go with you. No problem for her though, her company must be highly valued and she’ll find someone in no time. She’s just feeling a little down for the moment. Just offer support and she’ll be okay soon anyway.
That’s when I met my first real-life facepalm.
Martin wrote:
Why? because only a couple generation ago it was a major faux pas for the girl to ask a boy out, so a lot of socialization customs for girls where build around how to let a boy know with out saying it.
[This comic is totally true, but the mega phone is optional, just a long as the boy hears those words]
kazunori wrote:
That’s doesn’t take into account the biggest complaint I hear from women, About Inappropriate timing, where weamon are so constantly “hit on” that bad timing is going to get written off too.
If any girl that likes me reads this, please follow Larisa’s advice ASAP! 😀
THIS!
LARISSA, THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH!!!
Jones wrote:
Of course girls can be clueless, too, but I wouldn’t call the comic sexist because of that, it doesn’t deal with communication in general but with dating. In fact, the comic criticizes the still rather common (and a bit sexist) notion that the boy should ask the girl out, while the girl should only drop more or less subtle hints that she would be interested, but should not flat out ask the boy out, at least not for the first date.
Hi there.
Megaphones hurt ears. Instead, jot down a few choice words on a piece of paper.
Taping it to his forehead should work.
Good luck. ~~half-deaf male
Jones wrote:
Well I smell 4 tips from Landon (on premise he got Larisa) comming shortly after 😀
An “Average” High Schooler wrote:
Well why so little ambition? I am denser then Iridium 😀
Cervisia wrote:
LANDON… you know… for getting and keeping Larisa…
The funniest part is that it’s true. 🙂
@ Paeris Kiran:
But is it density or hardness that is more important? Cause Osmium is densest but only has a hardness of 7 on Mohs’ scale of hardness where as demand scores a 10. Or is that why demands are a girl’s best friend, as they can get through our skulls.